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January often arrives bearing the weight of greater expectations. New goals. New habits. Articles everywhere instruct us on how we can strive for a new version of ourselves. Almost as if we are software in need of an upgrade. 

Softening doesn’t mean doing less, it is a quality we can bring to what we do. Softening is gentle. It is subtle. A shift rather than a force.

November offers a chance to pause. Nature itself is gathering. The trees draw their sap toward their roots, animals store food and prepare for rest. Similarly, we can begin to gather what has been scattered, refocus our attention, and bring our awareness inward. Gathering is not withdrawal. It is not about closing ourselves off or retreating from life.

We often live with the illusion of permanence. We like to believe that things will stay as they are, that people, places, and even our own feelings are fixed and enduring. And yet, if we look closely, all of existence is in a state of flux. Nothing lasts forever; everything is temporary.

Have you ever noticed how reversing a car demands a different kind of attention? Unlike driving forward, where muscle memory often takes over, going backwards pulls you out of autopilot. It requires focus, presence, and awareness. At that moment, you’re far more mindful.

In a world that moves fast and urgency is worn like a badge of honour, the simple act of pausing can feel radical. Yet it is exactly this pause that allows us to soften, breathe, and reconnect to ourselves in a more grounded and compassionate way.